#199【これだから女は・・って言う人、おるん！？】

How the 'Protagonist' MBTI Emerged — Environment Shapes Who You Are

peco recently discovered her MBTI type had shifted to Protagonist. She had previously moved between Entertainer and Campaigner, but a friend well-versed in MBTI asked two pointed questions: 'Have you been in more situations lately where you have to be the one who acts?' and 'Has your environment changed significantly?' Both hit home.

The past three months had been transformative. Her boyfriend began coming to Tokyo far more often; her closest friend relocated there; several friends from Osaka followed one by one. On top of that, Manager Takahashi, a longtime collaborator, was transferred and new staff joined the team. Before peco realized it, she had become the natural guide for friends unfamiliar with Tokyo — researching restaurants, making reservations, planning ahead. The spontaneous P (Perceiving) type had quietly become a J (Judging) type.

Both hosts landed on the same conclusion: environment changes people. You don't have to will yourself to change — if the world around you shifts, you shift with it. For anyone stuck in relationships that erode their self-worth, they suggested that overhauling your environment entirely might be the breakthrough you need.

JESSICA's Debut Essay Collection Hits Bestseller Before It Even Ships

JESSICA's first essay book, Eranda Michi ya de Zettai Michi ya de Zettai Seikai (選んだ道やで絶対正解) — roughly 'The Path You Chose Is Absolutely Right' in Osaka dialect — reached bestseller status during its pre-order window before the official release date of October 26, 2026. It was available for pre-order on Amazon at the time of recording.

'No Nursery Spot' — Can an International School Fill the Gap?

A listener named Okan wrote in with a practical dilemma: she is planning an autumn move with her one-and-a-half-year-old daughter, but because the move falls mid-school-year, local nurseries have no openings. She is considering enrolling her daughter in an international school instead.

peco, whose son has attended international school continuously since age three (he is now eight), gave her first word of advice bluntly: 'International school' covers an enormous range — no two schools are alike. Key differences include:

- **Student nationality mix**: some schools have 80% Japanese students; others are genuinely difficult for Japanese children to enter - **Curriculum tradition**: American, British, and French schools have fundamentally different educational philosophies - **Strictness**: despite their free-spirited reputation, some schools regulate even shoe colors and emphasize rigorous academics - **Language policy**: some schools ban Japanese entirely on campus; others allow it freely

peco flagged one issue the listener may not have considered: extended care hours. Someone who wanted a nursery presumably needs long-day coverage, yet many international schools finish around 3 p.m. Confirming whether extended care exists is non-negotiable.

On the question of parental English ability, peco was candid. She herself had almost no English when her son was five or six, but began studying in earnest after his current school switch. She can now manage the formal one-on-one conferences at the start of each school year — where parents present their child's characteristics, weaknesses, and requests directly to the homeroom teacher in English. 'It's a completely different feeling of security if even one parent, mum or dad, can speak English,' she said. Her strongest advice: seek out real people whose children already attend the school you are considering and ask them everything.

'This Is Why Women Are a Problem' — Facing Discrimination and Finding Solidarity

A 32-year-old executive using the name Neko Cats Samurai sent a message that stopped the show. The only woman in a leadership role at a deeply male-dominated company, she had worked from the first train to the last, absorbed administrative tasks that always landed on her, endured sexual harassment and dismissive remarks, and still climbed. Next year, she will step down from her executive position. The company's representative told her directly: when a child arrives, the woman will inevitably take on childcare; her current pace is unsustainable; stepping down will give her more flexibility. She is aware that her fertility treatments have required taking time off on weekdays and that her results have suffered — and yet the rage and grief poured out: 'Is the business world just for men? Am I in the way of their convenience?' What she asked for was not confrontation but co-authorship: 'I don't want to fight. I want someone to think through structural solutions with me, from the same level.'

peco and JESSICA were honest: 'We haven't lived this, so we won't pretend we fully understand.' But: 'The frustration — that we do understand.' JESSICA said out loud what often goes unsaid: that getting men to completely comprehend the physical realities of pregnancy and hormonal fluctuation is 'close to impossible.' Still, neither host let that become an excuse for resignation. They received the listener's words — not anger at men, but a plea for solidarity in changing the structures — and held them with quiet, genuine care.