# #632 ｢あれ､俺がやったんだよ｣は本当に最悪…渋谷のバー店主｢若者に一発アウトなおじさんの昔話｣3選 - Show: プレジデント音声版 - Published: 2026-09-28 - Canonical: https://podc.club/en/episode/1525273315_8530fce64c21.html - Audio: https://traffic.omny.fm/d/clips/a10fab0c-08e4-4ce4-abed-aeb601152bcc/fa8d9e0c-1e7b-4e5e-81c9-aebc0016b5a2/a3feb2d7-e0de-48dd-8152-b4d0002653f3/audio.mp3?utm_source=Podcast&in_playlist=2bdab59e-ba3e-4897-b598-aebc0016b5b0 - Source: Edited from a machine transcript of the first 30 minutes of the episode. Not an official summary. In this episode, the President editor-in-chief introduces two articles drawn from Shinji Hayashi's book "Ojisan ni Nattemo" (Discover 21), based on interviews with the owner of the Shibuya wine bar Bar Bossa. One piece lists three types of "old guy war stories" that young people find instantly off-putting, and the other recounts an incident at the bar in which regular customers stepped in to defuse a confrontation after a patron threw a bottle. ## What this episode answers ### What are the three types of "old guy war stories" that Shinji Hayashi, owner of a Shibuya bar, says young people dislike? The three types are: bragging about minor involvement in famous work with the line "Hey, I'm the one who did that," mocking others for not knowing something obscure with "You probably don't even know this existed," and romanticizing the pre-email era with "Those were the days." ### Why is the boastful line "Hey, I'm the one who did that" so unpopular? It is unpopular because truly impressive people tend not to boast, so the line exposes that the speaker's actual contribution was often minor, amounting to little more than having their name in the credits. ### How was the incident at the bar resolved after a customer threw a bottle? Two regular customers at another table intervened: one calmed the man down by saying violence isn't the answer, while the other listened to both sides and proposed forgetting the drinks tab and just paying for the broken glass; the man paid 10,000 yen and the couple left on good terms. ### What kind of "mediation" can only an older man pull off? Only an older man can pull off mediation that combines having enough life experience from many past situations, the in-the-moment sense to read where each side's pride is caught up, and enough presence that both parties trust his judgment. ### How does the President editor-in-chief look back on his own father's generation? He reflects on his father, born in 1943, and the patriarchal household norms and tea commercials of the Showa era, while noting it's now hard to be told only older men are the problem; still, he concludes today's era is unquestionably better and hopes for a society that proceeds regardless of gender or age. ## Article ## Three "old guy war stories" young people hate This episode draws on "Ojisan ni Nattemo" (Discover 21) by Shinji Hayashi, owner of the Shibuya wine bar Bar Bossa, as the President editor-in-chief introduces two articles from the book. The first covers three "instantly-out" war stories that emerged from Hayashi's interviews with young people. The first is "Hey, I'm the one who did that" — bragging about having made a certain commercial or run a certain festival, when in reality the person's involvement often amounted to little more than getting their name in the credits. Hayashi notes that the people who are truly impressive tend not to boast at all. The second is the "You probably don't even know this existed" story. Hayashi illustrates it with the cooking magazine Dancyu, describing the tendency to say "You don't know Dancyu?" — then realizing this is exactly the same pattern that irritated him when older generations laughed at him for not knowing things when he was young. The third is the "Those were the days" story — the claim that, in the era before email, confessing your feelings meant using the phone or writing letters, a real clash of hearts. Hayashi pushes back on this, pointing out that the internet has also created connections that wouldn't otherwise have happened. ## A near-miss showdown that really happened at the bar The second article recounts an episode in which regular customers mediated a fight that broke out at the bar. Late one night, a male customer who had been pressing the staff to "explain more properly" was asked to settle his bill, at which point the woman he was with also began kicking up a fuss. The man ended up throwing a bottle, shattering a glass. Just as it seemed the only option left was to call the police, two customers sitting at another table stood up. One told the man "violence isn't the answer" to calm him down, while the other listened to both sides and proposed: "Forget the drinks tab — just pay for the glass and call it even." The man pulled 10,000 yen from his wallet, the situation settled down, and the couple left on good terms. ## "Mediation" is something only an older man can do Reflecting on this experience, Hayashi argues that mediation requires three things at once: having been through enough situations to have real experience, the in-the-moment ability to read where each side's pride is caught up, and enough presence that both parties think, "well, if this person says so, I guess it's fine." He says this combination can only come with age, and that in a broader sense, "mediation" also includes things like quietly approaching a junior colleague who has made a mistake early in their career, sharing your own past failures, or helping clean up after the fact. ## Is simply being an older man a crime? The President editor-in-chief brings in stories about his own father (born in 1943), reflecting on the patriarchal household norms of the Showa era and the tea commercials of that time, while touching on how difficult it now is to be told "only older men are the problem." He reveals that he graduated from the Faculty of Letters at Keio University and belongs to one of the last cohorts of the employment ice-age generation, noting that some of his classmates never landed regular, full-time jobs. Even so, he concludes that today's era is unquestionably better, and that a society where things proceed without regard to gender or age is the one to hope for. ## Takeaways - The three "old guy war stories" young people dislike are: "Hey, I'm the one who did that," "You probably don't even know this existed," and "Those were the days." - A bar incident in which a customer threw a bottle was resolved peacefully after regular customers stepped in to mediate, letting both sides save face. - Defusing a tense situation through experience and presence is described as a form of "mediation" that only someone who has aged into it can pull off.